By JONATHON ASLAY
Since the time when our ancestors lived in caves, men and women have evolved physically, mentally and socially in completely different ways. Men are still hunters, but now they’re in search of money, power and women. Women are still gatherers– of hidden treasures, knowledge, and community connection. Yet we’re still magnetically drawn together like the missing puzzle pieces of each other.
Men Are As Selective As Their Options
One of the things I’ve heard women who re-enter the dating pool later in life often say, is that they’re “completely lost.” Welcome to the jungle! Now, in your feminine nature, you’re probably compelled to weed through the useless choices, and stick to a select few that you find interesting. You might even only date one guy at a time. Back when communities were small and tight-knit, this method would work as you met your selection of “favorite men” on a regular basis. But things have changed. A lot.
In modern times, cyber-dating has become an online source of catalogue-style shopping for prospective mates. Men are still driven by the desire to seek out the woman that excels above others, and can be methodical in their approach. The biggest difference is that men look at dating as a sport, (like hunting) with more pleasure than emotional involvement.
Now I’m not saying men can’t be deeply involved emotionally with a woman who captivates his heart and mind. Most men are looking for just that! But in the early stages of dating, a man is testing the waters based on his instinctive talents. That’s why he doesn’t have a hard time moving on to the next prospect when he’s not picking up any vibes that say, “girlfriend material.”
As long as his choices are abundant, a man will be selective about which woman is “chosen.”
Don’t Get Caught Up In Your Emotions
A common complaint I hear from women is that some men lose interest after only a few dates, and then fade away with no explanation of what went wrong. You think you had a great time, the night together was magical, and so were his kisses.
But then he stops calling you.
Let me tell you, this is nothing to be alarmed about, and you shouldn’t take it personally. What should you “gather” from this? Knowledge that he wasn’t the right one for you, of course!
Next time you head out on a date with a man, change your way of thinking. Instead of asking yourself, “does he like me?” ask yourself, “do I like him?” If he calls you back, and you like his company, give it a shot. If not, move onto the next candidate, and keep searching for the hidden treasure. You’ve had the talent for thousands of years, so use your female instincts.
Enjoy treasure hunting, eh, gathering.
Jonathon Aslay is the purveyor of UnderstandMenNOW.com as well as a dating coach and relationship confidant. As someone who has graduated with honors from life’s virtual University of Dating, Jonathon Aslay assists women in finding that seemingly elusive man with whom they can have both compatibility and passion.
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