(Yahoo) Sometimes, it seems like guys just don’t get it. Is it so much to ask for our men to listen and empathize to our gripes instead of offering advice on how to “fix” them (that is, unless said problem is a flat tire), or to “ooh and aah” just a little bit over a new baby in the family? While it may seem like your guy is clueless when it comes to knowing how to truly help and even connect with you, the truth is that he physically can’t help but react the way he does. “Simply put: his brain is wired in a very specific ‘male’ way, which is entirely different from the way in which yours is,” says Louann Brizendine, M.D., a Bay Area psychiatrist, professor and author ofThe Male Brain. For more insight into what actually accounts for his most frustratingly “guy” behaviors, we asked Dr. Brizendine to shed a more scientific light onto what truly makes men tick.
Q: Why is he always so focused on sex, sex, sex?
Chalk this one up to testosterone, the “male” hormone that advises the brain, too. “In utero, the male fetal brain ‘marinates’ in testosterone, which makes his brain’s area for sexual pursuit grow to be two and a half times larger than in a female brain,” Dr. Brizendine says. “And then, the ‘fuel’ that drives this area in the brain — testosterone — increases in a male by 250 percent between ages 9 and 15.” So by the time he’s a teenager, a male’s visual circuits — all of which are located in his brain — start focusing on female body parts and fantasizing about how to get a girl to have sex with him. (And, you may have noticed, this act of “focusing” doesn’t exactly stop after high school!)
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